Christmas past, presence, and future

Dec 18, 2018 | Blog, Featured, New, Uncategorized | 2 comments

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As the holidays approach, the season of giving and receiving is upon us. This is also a time when our hearts are very open. I love traditions and certain pastimes are ingrained in me, and hopefully, my kids. For example, that they always get to open one present on Christmas Eve, and—surprise! It’s pyjamas again!

But most of the traditions I cherish do not involve gift giving or receiving.

They involve meaningful time, or presence (not presents), with others such as cookie decorating, tree hunting, cross-country skiing, and visiting with friends over some homemade eggnog (it’s quietly ageing now. . .), board games, and puzzles. Those are the things I, and I think you, look forward to most. 

Often there is stress over the holidays about getting the right gift, the dreaded shopping, and overstretched finances. But another big stressor and potential torture test is spending time with relatives that you may not see often (or even those you do). Holidays are a breeding ground for hurt feelings (No one understands me! Why does my uncle always ask me the same rude questions? And my mum treats me like I’m two!). Alcohol is often involved, which fuels the fire, and past hurts come to the surface. It is almost predictable how some gatherings will play out: we all show up with the same expectations as last year and we are still suffering the same hurts from the past, while we haven’t spent any time together to work on or heal any of it. To avoid the odd dinner roll from flying across your table, I challenge you to try something different this year.

Prepare yourself.

How? By digging deep and opening your heart to feel love for those around you. Think of yourself as a radiator: a radiator emitting love. Try smiling frequently throughout the day, even when you don’t feel like it. As a reminder, smile every time you look in the mirror. Smile while you are grocery shopping (or gift shopping—an even bigger challenge!). Smile at your spouse when you come home. All this love and smiling may sound corny, but it works! It is also contagious! Just by smiling you can change someone’s day. We are all simply people learning how to express our true selves in this world. Mistakes will be made and we will need to be forgiven for these mistakes. We are learning, just as a baby learns to walk! Those around us are also learning and need to be seen with compassion and forgiveness. By opening up your heart you can make others feel better about themselves. And guess what—they become nicer!

Drop your usual guards and defensive reactions and let your light shine through.

By being truly present with the people you love you are giving AND receiving the best gift. Sharing your loving energy with others is a powerful thing. Do you realise how big this gift is? When you feel love in your heart for others, whether in their presence or across the miles, you are giving them a gift of healing, unconditional love, and kindness. You are also giving them a gift of support. Support for them to feel able to express their true selves, to be who they really are, to let their inner light shine. By feeling love for others you are supporting them to feel love for themselves. To love oneself is the ticket to happiness! Think about what the future may bring when we change our current patterns. When you can love yourself, you see not only your beauty, but also the beauty in everything around you. When you love yourself, you spread your loving energy to others, providing support for them to express their true selves. And further spreading the love! Wowza! Watch out for world peace people!

Not sure how to do this?

One exercise we have been practising in the Qigong from Home Community is to silently say “I love you”, from your heart, to whoever you are speaking to. This was a suggestion from my Qigong teacher, Master Lin. Try it. You will be amazed. Especially with those who you’ve had challenges with in the past. They don’t need to know you are doing this, only you will know. By doing this, you change the interaction and the stories dissolve. You will feel this in your heart. 

By changing your response, or thinking with an open heart before you respond, you will change everything and everyone around you. It is magical, and it’s your gift to offer to others. I would love to hear in the comments any experience you’ve had where opening your heart resulted in a positive outcome.

Happy holidays to you all!  Spread the love!

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  1. Harmony

    Yay Sue!
    I can feel your love radiating. I fully agree with smiling and sending forward warmth. I live daily with a thankful heart, each and every day I give my gift to the world. I share my happiness; I live a life of kindness by choice. By expecting nothing but giving always. And forgiveness, I have learned is a gift you give yourself. When you forgive it is truly your own heart you change. When you radiate love all around you and expect nothing but give much your heart becomes a peace radiator. The love in your heart gets so full it spills out to even strangers around you and in return you become a peace keeper and can truly change the world. Your heart achieves peace in a world that still searches for it. This is really great. Thank you.
    Love Harmony

  2. Naomi Krogman

    What a lovely message. Can we understand ourselves with such power? It is amazing when we can, and surely you are a walking testimony to the power of love and radiating that out, My Dear Friend Sue!


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